How To Find What You Want, Why You Want It & How To Get It

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(Note: Ready to make your breakthrough? Check out Breakthrough Mastery, a course with our Lead Transformation coach, Jeremy Bellotti, to learn how to get exactly what you want out of life. You can find it here.)

Do you want to run a successful business? Of course you do. 

I know how bad you want it because I was in the same position many of you are in with your businesses. I was struggling. I was hungry. I was failing. But I kept trying and trying and trying until I finally figured out something that worked for me. Looking back, it's obvious to me why it took me so long to find success.

A big part of it was that I didn't know exactly what I wanted, why I wanted it, or how to get it. 

See, to be happy and successful, we first have to understand what it is that we want in life.

 The problem is, most people never actually take any time to think this through. Instead, they go on autopilot or start living someone else’s dream. Then they're miserable and wonder why.

To get your life and business straight, you need to know exactly what you want, why you want it and how to get it.

 While this may sound like a lot, it isn’t as hard as you might think.

There's a simple process you can go through to help yourself start getting clear on all of this.

Getting Started

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When you're thinking through what you want, it's important to think of both your professional goals and your personal goals to help you live a well-rounded life. For example, I have goals of places I want to see and travel to in the world. Those are personal goals.

I also have goals for Lurn. For example, I had the goal of opening a physical location for our company. That was a professional goal.

The process of figuring out what your personal and professional goals are is actually really simple.

To get started, take out a sheet of paper (or open up a doc) and make two columns. Write “personal” and “professional” on the top of each column. Then, list out your professional and personal goals.

Really think these through, and make sure they're your goals, not someone else’s.

When you're writing out your lists, you’ll want to do these two things…

1. Dream Big

This isn’t the time to be shy or insecure.

Really dream BIG.

In their book, "Built to Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies", James Collins and Jerry Porras call these goals your Big Hairy Audacious Goals, otherwise know as your BHAG (pronounced "bee-hag"). These are goals that you yourself might not even think are possible. They're goals you'll spend the rest of your life working toward. They're goals you KNOW you might never achieve. 

And that's ok.

The point is to push yourself more than you ever thought you could. Here are some BHAG examples to give you an idea of what I'm talking about:

  • Nike: Crush Adidas (back in the 60's before Nike was what it is today)
  • Boeing: Become the dominant player in commercial aircraft and bring the world into the jet age (back in 1960)
  • Johnny Collinson: Climb the highest mountain on all seven continents (he broke the record for youngest to do it!)

The point is to set huge goals for yourself that push the boundaries of what you believe is possible for yourself. Even if you don't reach your goal, you'll still achieve things you never would've thought you could in the process.

2. Think Of The Details

When you're writing out your goals, do a quick pass the first time. Then, go back and really dig into the details.

 What do I mean by “details?”

 Let’s say you want to start an internet marketing business... 
  • What would that look like?
  • What niche?
  • What would your sales look like?
  • Would you have a staff?
  • What would the success of your business bring

Do the same with your personal goals. If you want to learn a language...,

  • What language?
  • Where would you use it?
  • Would you take a trip to a country that speaks that language?

It can be easy to fall off track when you are setting goals. Life gets in the way. You have work, social engagements and even little things like time spent watching your favorite shows.

If you don’t have an idea in your mind of what your dreams would look like, it can be easy to leave those dreams in the abstract…which leads to a lack of action.

By digging into the details, though, you’ll really be able to get yourself excited—which leads to forward motion.

(Note: If you want more help breaking down your goals, check out my post about the PEG method that I use to achieve my goals.)

3. Look At The Why

So, you have your goals and know what those goals will look like. Now it’s time to really dig deep…you need to look at the WHY.

Saying you “want to start a business” is great, but why do you want to start a business? Is it financial freedom? Have you always dreamed of owning your own business? Do you want to make more money? Do you want to help people?

Really be honest with yourself about WHY your goals are what they are.

 If you don’t have a compelling why, then they may not really be your goals…they may be someone else’s.

 So, really think through your dreams, get detailed and consider the WHY.

Once you’ve done this, you're ready to move forward into some activities that will help you to achieve your goals.

Activity #1 - Life Is Short, And Time Is Limited

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It can be easy to get lazy and feel like we have forever to achieve our dreams. In reality, there's an expiration date. We all get old and pass away at some point. We don't have an unlimited amount of time on this planet, and you don’t want to be on your deathbed wondering why you never got started.

Take this ticking clock into consideration for this activity.

I want you to consider how old you are and how many days you have left until you're 80. If you had just turned 30, this would look like...

  • 80 - 30 = 50 years
  • 365 days/year
  • 50 x 365 = 18,250 days

Whenever you get lazy or feel like you have all of the time in the world, consider that number. 

When you don’t feel like taking action, when you feel like being lazy, when you feel your drive slipping, consider that number. 

And don’t forget to update it every once in a while.

I know there will be times that you feel like slowing down or giving up. When those times come, remember that the clock is ticking.

Activity #2 - Uncovering Your Why

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Here is where I want you to take a deeper look at your WHY.

Take out a sheet of paper and write out the detailed goals we discussed earlier. Then write out the WHY for each goal.

 Here are some examples:

  • You want to learn how to speak Spanish because you want to visit Spain by the end of the year.

  • You want to start an internet marketing business because you would like the freedom to travel the world while still making money.

  • You would like to own a doughnut shop because you love baking would like to own your own future.
  • You want to start a school because there's nothing more important than ensuring everyone in the world receives a quality education.

There's no right or wrong answer here; its YOUR motivation. By clarifying your WHY, you’ll be able to better motivate yourself and understand why you should be driven to accomplish your dreams.

You now have a better understanding of what you want and why you want it.

Now you need to understand what’s getting in the way of your achieving your goals and why your dreams are still on your list of things to accomplish.

 Let’s take a look at some of your biggest excuses for why you haven’t gotten started or why you're failing to gather momentum. From there, we can discover what you can do to get over those hurdles and fight off those excuses.

Activity #3 - Getting Rid Of Excuses

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For this activity, I want you to take out a pen and paper and write a list featuring the excuses below. You're then going to rate the excuses based on how often you use them. 1 will be never, 10 will be all the time.

  • I don't have enough time to get things done.
  • I don't know where to start.
  • I'm tired all the time
  • I don't have the money to get started or keep things going.
  • I'm afraid of the outcomes of taking action.

I know it’s easy to believe these fallacies, and part of the reason why we believe them is because we have the wrong outlook.

We're often told that, in order to succeed, we have to be fully invested, all the time. This simply isn’t the truth.

Actually, if you sacrifice your entire life for success, you’ll find that you burn yourself out pretty quickly. Once this happens, you won’t just grind to a halt—you’ll start slipping backwards!

 Just like you can overdo taking time off and being lazy, you can also overdo working. Just like you shouldn’t binge on TV, you shouldn’t go crazy and binge on getting work done.

This simply isn’t a healthy way of doing things.

Activity #4 - Recharging Productively

Which brings us to our last activity.

I want you to take some time to list out some things that you not only enjoy doing, but that also help you recharge your batteries.

 Now, I want to be clear. I don’t mean things like binging TV all day! Instead, I want you to list out some activities that challenge you but aren’t work related.

Think of things like hobbies and exercise.

Here are some examples:

  • Learning how to play guitar.

  • Going to CrossFit to improve your fitness.

  • Learning how to cook or bake.

  • Playing golf with some friends or co-workers.

  • Going to the park and having a picnic with your family.

These are all great ways to get your mind off work while still being positive and furthering your life.

You need to make sure your work-life balance is healthy and that you're staying in shape and spending time with family.

 Make your list of activities that will help you to recharge, and schedule out time to do those things.

How To Find What You Want

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At this point, you should have a better understanding of what you want, why you want it and how to get it. Honestly, finding those three things is half the battle. The other half is actually going out there and taking action to get what you want.

Go through the 4 exercises we went over, and start achieving your dreams!

(Note: Ready to make your breakthrough? Check out Breakthrough Mastery, a course with our Lead Transformation coach, Jeremy Bellotti, to learn how to get exactly what you want out of life. You can find it here.)